5 Ways to Build Confidence!

As I’ve said in previous posts, I am a firm believer that confidence is a skill. Even if you’re blessed with natural characteristics that allow you to tap into confidence more easily, it’s still important to recognize that it is a learned skill and can be attained by anyone through practice! Here are some tips that have helped me develop my confidence over time:


3. Find a hobby or skill that you love!

The mindset for this tip is similar to #2 in that accomplishments do a lot to help boost our confidence! I highly recommend finding something you’re good at, or even something you’re interested in, and dedicating time to developing that skill! Everyone needs a creative outlet; whether it’s photography music, cooking art, dancing– The information is out there waiting for you to stumble on the right webpage. Go find it and start learning!

4. Find your tribe

This one is HUGE for me. I tell this to anyone I know that is searching for ways to find confidence in their own lives. Ultimately, you are the culmination of the 5 people you surround yourself with the most, so why not make sure they are awesome people?! Dedicate your time to those who appreciate and care about you most. It may be a little easier said than done, but once you distance yourself from people who bring you down, or even old friends who’s everyday actions just aren’t aligning with your mindset, you start to realize much better you feel in the long run. Think about it this way: the more time you’re spending on those relationships that don’t bring you joy, the less time you’ll have to strengthen the friendships that lift you up! So Marie Kondo those guys out of there, find the ones that truly bring you joy and continue living your best life with them by your side.

1. Your Body is Beautiful, Embrace it.

As we get older, we are frequently exposed to unrealistic images of what a “real women” should look like. It can be hard not to compare yourself and even harder to accept your body for what it is, especially when there are brands who make millions of dollars by telling women that they are not enough. When body anxieties pop into my head, I try to focus on parts of my body that I like and I encourage you to do the same. Do you like your legs? Your eyes? Nose? It’s good to express these to yourself regularly, the more you do it the more you will believe it to be true! When you’re feeling low about yourself, it can be easy to hop right back into negative self-talk. Try to remember, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend, why would you say it to yourself?

2. Set Goals You Can Achieve, and record them!

Take some time think about what you’d like to accomplish within the day, the week or even the year. This can be something as simple as decluttering your space or committing to a work out class. Set realistic objectives for how you plan to reach your goal, or even keep track of your progress by writing down your accomplishments. Think of how it will feel to see how productive you have been working toward those final goals! One way I’ve found to improve negative self-talk is to write down a list of moments that make me most proud. This can even include finishing your list of goals for the week or the month! Read it over and over if you have to and assess how you feel over time.


5. Know Yourself so you can Love Yourself!

This tip is, above all, SO important for building your self confidence. SELF-LOVE! No one is going to be on your corner like you will, therefore it’s important to know yourself so you can love yourself! Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Think about the positives about yourself, what you do well and what you like about your body and your mind. Think about your goals in life, your standards and how you are implementing those into your daily life. Think about what stops you from being your best self, how can you overcome these limitations? Are you implementing some form of self-care? Maybe you’re taking a bath with your favorite bath bomb, working out, reading or meditating. Find time to be there for yourself, even if its 5 minutes a day. Dig deep to find things that bring you joy and eventually you will find a greater sense of self-confidence. As the queen Ru Paul says, “If you don’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love anyone else?!”

That’s it for this post! Thank you for reading, I hope this helped you even a little bit on your journey to gaining confidence! As always, feel free to connect with me via Instagram! I post even more Self-Love content over there and would love to continue the discussion with you.


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